Of course, most faces are hidden-reserved instead for private messages-though a surprising number do show theirs publicly, sometimes even attached to other people’s genitals. In fact, the amount of dick pics on a profile is usually inverse to the amount of reviews, meaning that-no matter how pretty you think your cock is-photographing it from ten different angles predictably diminishes your chances of getting laid.
Most recently, he says, he’s seen a huge rise in young women joining Fab Swingers because of what he calls “the normalization of ‘daddy’ kinks
Unlike most women on Fab Swingers, one 23-year-old tells me that she doesn’t see the problem: “We’re clearly on a site devoted to sex, so dick pics actually help me wade through everyone. I’m a bit of a size queen, so if a hung guy sends me a dick pic and he seems cute, then I take more notice over a guy with gay farmers only [no dick pics].”
Out of the thousands of messages she receives, she says, 85 percent feature cock shots: “Maybe that’s why other women find it bothersome, but it’s not like the site is for meeting your knitting group, so why get offended?”
The extreme close-up is the most common type of shot on Fab Swingers, with hairless labia and flabby penises dissecting screens like blunt pocket knives
At 2 AM, a 25-year-old woman writes that she’s high and “looking for naughty company.” Another common preference on here is that women want men to be “gym fit,” which is fair enough in an economy of flesh, but not exactly a look most women on Fab Swingers have themselves. Luckily for those women-and unluckily for men who don’t know what “macros” or “renegade rows” are-there are plenty of budget Dwayne Johnsons on here.
At 3 AM, a man in Camden asks, “Can accomodate [sic] in NW5 have party stuff aswell [sic] who wants to play?”
Naturally, profile lengths vary, with some users writing one-line bios and others longer more descriptive entries-though judging by the amount of headings like “READ PROFILE FIRST,” most go unread, with messages presumably dashed off in one-handed haste.
For couples, the lure seems more about engaging in what we know as traditional swinging, where long-term relationships open themselves up in order to-theoretically-get stronger. Ironically, despite someone banging your significant other being more offensive to non-swingers than singles having casual sex, couples on Fab Swingers appear better-adjusted, safer, and less prone to the site’s downsides than others. This suggests that, rather than being byproducts of swinging, these downsides have migrated over with users looking for quick sex with no understanding of “the lifestyle.” Many of these have come from Tinder and OkCupid, along with Craigslist’s recently deleted personals section-all previous ports for people wanting to get it in.
“The main issue with Tinder is that, as its popularity grew, so did its functionality,” one 27-year-old Fab Swingers user tells me. “It went from being ‘the booty call on campus’ to a universal dating app.”
He says that, since Craigslist deleted its personals section last March, users have scattered not only to Fab Swingers but also FetLife and Reddit. He also believes that traditional swinging has dwindled because of generational change: “Swinging isn’t as popular with younger demographics due to poly couples becoming more commonplace. Casual sex [also] isn’t as taboo as it was 20 years ago.”
At 4 AM, a couple in their late-30s asks, “Who’s around now SE9 for a 3 sum [sic]?” before giving out their Kik username-an anonymous messenger app used by many Fab Swingers members.